I honestly feel so bad about this title because I've never ever seen Game of Thrones. Not even a snippet. I feel almost as if GoT is this sacred cult and I am not permitted to make this reference but here we are. You have every right to come for me in the comments but realise if we don't put aside our enmities and band together we will die. Winter is coming, it's time to start layering with everything. I actually prefer the autumn/winter season to summer because I'm in love with knitwear and outerwear. A good chunky knit with an oversized jacket? WHAT. A. BANGER. Here are a few pieces I've been coveting - PS: they will probably sell out, just saying🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️ Get you a certi winter jacket(and ghost) and (you are set to stunt on all these h8rs. Lol, I'm kidding) all your outfits will look as though you spent more time planning them than you actually did. Be wise queens. *none of these images are mine and are featured on the respective websites, affiliate links may be used. Student discount through MYUNIDAYS
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So Season 2 of Insecure is over and if you haven't watched the show or have no idea what I am talking about – who are you and what are you doing with your life? Not only is this show real af (it's not some plot that only happens in movies; FUBU) it's also produced by Issa Rae aka my awkward sister/aunt/cousin. I'm digressing, back to Molly. Not only does Molly have an INCREDIBLE style (I literally go on Ayanna J's twitter to get details on outfits I cannot afford), she knows exactly what she wants and works towards it, except for her love life, that's really a mess. I mean I'm not on her “I need a man and I need him now” phase. (Can never be me tbh 🤷🏾♀️). She is a “should” person (as her therapist points out). As am I. It is assumed “should” individuals believe the world owes them and they are entitled to their wants as if that's a bad thing, lol. I believe there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a “should person” as long as you can back it up. Don't be a all talk and no action entitled bitch, lol. I'm a “should” person because I plan everything meticulously. I know and I'm fully aware of what I want and take the required steps to get it. So why should I doubt the outcome? I am “entitled” to what I want because I've done what needed to be done. Sorry. People see the end results and shout entitled but I've grinded for this. Entitled. Grinded. Polar opposites. “Should” people work for what they want. I'm really not about that “could” lifestyle. Excuse-moi? This is a gamble? Gambling with my life? I think not! I'm all about certainty, should is all about certainty and I love certainty. I'm definitely not here for a “wishy-washy let's see how it goes” mentality. Why should you wait and see how it goes when you can control how it goes. Wait; linger; relax. Control; work; hard. The older I get the more I realise that you can work extremely hard and get rewarded with absolutely nothing. However, personally this doesn't derail me from having a “should” mentality as it provides me with an achievable timeline/guideline of what to expect and do. I'm not oblivious to the fact that our shoulds don't always come to fruition as life isn't maths unfortunately, but I'd rather have a should mindset - give it my 100% and fully believe my plans will definitely work out than be half-hearted about anything. “Could” to me just screams undeviating potential. It seems to be a last resort when all your shoulds don't happen after you've done everything necessary so you hope in the coulds in order to keep your shoulds on track. Does this make sense? I hope it does. Read again if it does not x I could see the positives of being a “could” person. For starters, you just go with the flow and aren’t too fussed when things go south. It's just seems so unpredictable for me and I'm not a fan if I’m being honest. I love to plan. I enjoy planning. Give me something to look forward to (with certainty, you cannot be selling me dreams) and be excited about. Something I can focus on to motivate me all the way; a structured strategic plan with an end game.
If you are a “could” person let me know the positives of thinking this way because I can't seem to see any or grasp the concept. It'll be nice to know what other people think as I am truly intrigued by this whole concept. Are you a should or could person? Are you both? Is it possible to be both? |
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