The balance between being contented with where you are and wanting to be better can be a very difficult thing to achieve and may sometimes feel mutually exclusive. I’ve certainly been in positions where I felt I had it too good to complain and I should just be contented the situation; I have also felt as if I was settling for less and not making use of my full potential by being contented. Sometimes I just feel as though it’s a lose-lose situation however way you look at it, get frustrated and just do whatever I want (which is what you shouldn’t do lol).
Before my birthday, I was feeling sorry for myself and like a bum. Then at the start of May something vital happened that made me feel I should just be contented and not try to be better which completely broke me because I am constantly thinking of ways to be better! I am grateful I got out of that rut and found the balance between being contented whilst aiming to be better.
Here are the essential things that helped me:
Content is not settling for less
Most times we equate content to settling for less which is utterly bogus.
in a state of peaceful happiness.
I don’t know about you but I’m in no way happy or at peace when I give up.
Settling for less is self pity, accepting defeat and we do not do that. Contentment is tranquil, beautiful and we should all aim for it.
Whenever I feel overwhelmed with life, I try to bring myself to a place of contentment by placing emphasis on not being fixated with being better; instead of shutting down and wallowing in self pity remind yourself of the times you have gotten (and will) it right.
"denying it means you went through shit
Never be content with failing
Listen, it’s okay to take Ls sometimes (don’t let social media deceive you). In fact you will accumulate a couple of Ls in your lifetime and that’s perfectly okay. The most important thing is really how you recover from and deal with those losses; you shouldn’t be contented with your failures but you shouldn’t dismiss them either. Acknowledge them and learn from them. I know certain setbacks I didn’t want to accept at the time but have really built me up and have helped me enormously. Think about it this way: denying it means you went through shit for no reason, like your name is Bob (no offence to all the Bobs out there).
I guess the most important thing is not to become contented with mediocrity because failing is really inevitable. If you haven’t had some sort of drawback you’re simply residing in your comfort zone or you haven’t tried hard enough. There is no such thing as an instant success story.
Your only focus should be yourself
The statement someone is in a much worse situation than you are right now is true but there’s also someone that is in a way better place than I am; Yara Shahidi is 17, that is all I am saying. So when is it appropriate to consider people that are “below” you and when do you consider to look up to people and be better? Solution: Stay in your lane. Comparison is the thief of joy and constantly comparing yourself to people would by no means bring you happiness/content. Always do what works for you, focus on you and not what everyone else is doing.
Yes, you want to accomplish all these amazing things but if you don’t look back and appreciate how far you’ve come you could start to feel inadequate and as though you’re not doing enough or not doing anything at all!
So be truly contented with all of yourself and achievements, it will literally be impossible to enjoy any form of success if you’re not contented.
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