I turned 20 and I made it into more of a deal than the average person, in typical Ayo fashion. So I got this yearning for some insight into this new chapter of my life. Breaking news - nothing has magically changed.
The title seems like a self help cliché but I wouldn’t class it as a self help book, it’s more of a everyone-else-is-experiencing-the-same-shit-as-you-so-let’s-all-laugh-about-it book.
Each ‘secret’ is a chapter and is short and concise - straight to the point which made it such an easy read. I felt it had the familiarity of reading a blogpost rather than a rigid structured book which I appreciated. The chapters are honestly very insightful and some help you discern things you are struggling with or believe you are doing wrong. Some of the secrets are basic common sense - nudges to do and reminders of what you already know but collectively somehow it works and it doesn’t feel repetitive or like a broken record.
Although it’s primarily for and marketed to 20-somethings, I feel you will still be able to relate if you feel your life is going all the way left whilst you are heading right.
I think this book is very apt for 20-somethings as generally we don’t go through major challenges/life changing choices since we are all in an education bubble, going through the same generic life routines and the process with some sort of idea of where we are headed, then BAM! It all disappears - the bubble bursts and we have to start fending for ourselves with no guide to adulting. It’s one thing hearing people complaining about adulting and a totally different thing being on the other side and complaining about it too. The grass isn’t (really) greener on this side, kids!
It also talks a bit about the importance of faith, hope and believing in God and I think it’s great Paul incorporated this aspect of his life tin the book. I am aware that not everyone believes in God but this is however Paul’s journey and the secrets he feels are important enough to share with the world and if faith is one of those who are we to question his decision that he made in his book? I don’t think this aspect takes away from the book or the book excludes people that don’t have a particular faith as there are 90+ other tidbits you can relate to, the beauty of this book is that you don’t have to read it in linear format and can skip chapters.
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There were a few points pertaining to working full time, being a young couple, becoming a parent and other adult shenanigans I couldn’t relate to right now so I’ll definitely be reading this again when I’m faced with those scenarios. It’ll be interesting to see how my views have changed by then and how much more relatable the book becomes.
I don’t think I mentioned it but it’s also a funny book; being with your friends and laughing at lame jokes and trivial things type of funny !
The most important secret? We are literally have the same struggles (give or take)! We should talk more about our difficult experiences with each other and not try to create this illusion that we’ve got it all figured out. Most of us are a mess and that’s ok. What’s also more than ok? Telling you friends this because it can get very lonely in this streets.
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demicupid
29/8/2018 15:17:42
Impressive, No 54 and 27 got me..hmmmm
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Ayo
15/10/2018 20:01:27
Yeah there are really good short tips throughout the book.
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